Doing things yourself can be fun. And if you’re like me you like to do things yourself.

When I bought my first house many years ago, I completely gutted it. In most rooms I took it down to the studs. Other rooms I knocked out walls or built new ones. In my master bedroom I turned a once tiny coat room into a huge walk-in closet. And in the kitchen I tore out the space under the stairs and turned it into a large pantry.

I’d done very little carpentry work before I bought my house. Yet, here I was tearing my house a part, redesigning it, and putting it back together; all along moving the plumbing, rerouting electrical, replacing subfloor and drywall, moving toilets, etc, etc.

And I taught myself how to do all this.

But there were two areas I didn’t feel I should take on myself.

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If we’re honest, most of us have some sort of overwhelm with our websites.

Either there’s too much we’re told we have to do to have a successful website. Or the technology hurdles become so high that we’re paralyzed by them.

The fact is website overwhelm is a real thing. Often we can feel like we’re alone, swimming in the vast ocean, surrounded by sharks with no sight of land in any direction. And this can be quite daunting.

Yet, even worse than daunting our website overwhelm can get us stuck and keep us there. It can make us feel incompetent or incapable. And our website overwhelm can flat out make us give up trying all together.

But it really doesn’t have to be this way. Website (and business) skills are simply things we can learn. If you remember that everything in our lives we’ve learned since birth – language, walking, reading, writing, etc. Combine that with riding a bike, driving a car, using email, and a million other things and it should be obvious that we’ve learned how to do a lot of things.

But before we can learn we have to deal with our website overwhelm and how it affects us. So here’s 5 signs that we’re overwhelmed by our websites and what we can do about it.

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Most of us have a difficult time asking for help. I see it in myself; in my friends and colleagues. I see it in my kids and their friends. And I certainly see it in many of the people I work with. So why don’t we ask for help – especially when we need it?

Often, it takes courage to ask for help.

It seems simple, right? When you don’t know how to do something you ask someone who does. With their help the learning curve lessens and you spend less time being stuck and more time getting things done.

But we think that asking comes with a price. We risk being seen as unintelligent or incapable. We risk people judging us. We create some story in our minds that this should be simple. Or we believe we should know how to ‘do it.’ And when it’s not simple or we don’t know how we get stuck judging ourselves for what we don’t know.

And that’s the crux of why we don’t ask for help – we’re too busy judging ourselves.

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