June 22, 2007 by Dawud Miracle 30 Comments Share this:Tweet Related posts: Yeah, I'm In The Technorati Favorites Top 100 – So What? The Four Agreements of Conversational Blogging New Bloggers: An Idea To Get The Conversation Started Why Your Newsletter Content Should Come From Your Blog Social Media Advice: You Are What You Share Reader InteractionsComments Easton Ellsworth says June 22, 2007 at 1:56 pm #6: Don’t take any long road trips. No, seriously – plan ahead for your really busy times and make sure you put people first through those times. Reply TDavid says June 22, 2007 at 2:05 pm #7 remove the “digg this” button with 0 digg votes. Reply Edward Mills says June 22, 2007 at 2:19 pm Great post Dawud. They’re so obvious and yet, I’ve been guilty of all of them on a regular basis! Thanks for pointing out what was sitting in front of my face. I think I’ll print these out and and put them next to my computer. Reply Webomatica says June 22, 2007 at 3:08 pm Easton that is a good recommendation – I took a week vacation and lined up some guest posts and wrote another bunch in advance. It worked out pretty well (no traffic drop) and was fun for both me and the guest bloggers. Reply LaurenMarie says June 22, 2007 at 3:17 pm Dawud, I was reading some quotes today and I found this and you popped right into my mind. “Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being.” – Goethe That is YOU! I think people become what they are capable of being only through relationship, which is what you so lovingly cultivate here. Thank you 🙂 Reply Dawud Miracle says June 22, 2007 at 3:32 pm Easton, I hear you. I’d say put people first all the time, if possible. TDavid, Thanks for stopping by. Point taken. Edward, Yeah, there’s a reason why I know about them too. I’m hoping by sharing them that it helps people…and it reminds me too. Webomatica, Yeah, great idea. I’m traveling later this year and will likely be away for close to two weeks. I’ve been considering my strategy. Great ideas. LaurenMarie, Ooh, good one. I may have that one somewhere. But if not, I’m definitely adding it. Thanks. I agree with you that you find more about who you are through relationships. It’s as though you need a mirror to see who you really are. And through the mirror what you focus on will expand. Reply Dee says June 22, 2007 at 6:21 pm Great post Dawud. I’m gonna have to check the list of posts. It’s great of bloggers to share their mistakes so new bloggers like myself can learn how to avoid them 🙂 Reply francesco mapelli says June 23, 2007 at 7:10 am I don’t think I’d like an unsolicited phone call from another bloggger… but maybe it’s only me 🙂 anyway, here’s a list of 48 other blogging mistakes you can find useful: http://www.mapelli.info/blog/48-blogging-mistakes-from-the-blogosphere Reply francesco mapelli says June 23, 2007 at 10:17 am well… I still don’t like phone calls… they require full attention and you can handle only one at a time… (I’m talking about work stuff here, obvoisly I like to receive phone calls from my friends and family) there are cases where a phone call it’s needed, but if someone calls me to tell me something that could have been written on an email, I find it annoying… but probably it’s just that I’m a bit misanthropic 🙂 Reply Business Blogger says June 23, 2007 at 11:02 am Great tips Dawud. Creating relationships and Blogging go hand in hand. When you first start a blog you learn this very quickly. Reply Dawud Miracle says June 23, 2007 at 10:00 am Dee, Thanks. I know. I’ve learned a lot and am happy to share my experiences with everyone. francesco mapelli, I think you’re right…not everyone would want an unsolicited phone call. But we shouldn’t limit the options to those who would. How would you feel if someone emailed first and then asked about talking by phone? Reply Chris Walker says June 23, 2007 at 9:44 pm Dawud, You get out of relationships what you put into them. If not then you move on. No one can be a one man show. You will have to rely on someone at some time to achieve your goals. Reply Dawud Miracle says June 23, 2007 at 8:16 pm francesco, I understand. They do take a lot of time. Yet personally, I find that time often well spent. And I know we’re all different. Business Blogger, Thanks. I agree. It’s exactly why I’m blogging. I’m certain that conversation leads to relationships and relationships lead to commerce. Yet there’s a difference between building relationships just for the sake of commerce versus building relationships, helping people and trusting that some how your efforts will be reciprocated. Reply Stuart Baker says June 24, 2007 at 9:53 am Dawud, real good tips here. For me, you are talking about deep respect and operating from a heart level that increases awareness of others and fosters meaningful relationship. Thanks. Stuart Baker http://www.xonsciouscooperation.com Reply Dawud Miracle says June 25, 2007 at 2:51 pm Chris, Absolutely. Not to mention, I feel we’re ultimately here partially to get to know each other. Stuart, You got it. Fostering meaningful relationship through integrity and honesty. Doesn’t get much cleaner than that. Reply troy says June 26, 2007 at 12:49 am Mistakes? I’m guilty. I have let both emails and comments linger far too long without reply, but this is no longer an issue for me. Respond immediately! Otherwise, life happens. Then this is no longer an issue. Great post. Great advice. Great comments. Reply Dawud Miracle says June 26, 2007 at 6:19 am Troy, Thanks. And great to ‘see’ you. I’ve learned this the hard way myself. For me, if I don’t respond immediately, it’s hard to get to it later. Reply Susan Payton says June 26, 2007 at 11:16 am Wow! This is great. I’ll keep it handy for when people actually CONTACT me on my blog! I’m still in the early phases, but I love building blog relationships! Reply Dawud Miracle says June 26, 2007 at 12:48 pm Susan, Me too. The reason I’m blogging is for conversation and relationship with eye that at some point the relationships will lead to mutually beneficial business relationships – whatever form they naturally take. Some will be partnerships, some casual friendships – and others in between. Reply Hilary says June 26, 2007 at 7:47 pm “Not following through sends the message that you just don’t care… …[An] immediate response makes the other person feel like they’re important to you.” All very true. Reply Paul Hancox | InternetInfluenceMagic.com says August 5, 2007 at 7:54 pm Dawud, great tips. I never take comments on my blog for granted, but sometimes I get a bit lax on thanking my commentators. This is just the jolt I need to keep me in a thankful frame of mind. Thank you 🙂 Reply Dawud Miracle says August 6, 2007 at 8:14 am Paul, I know what you mean. And thank you for taking the time to comment. Reply Emma says August 25, 2007 at 11:47 am Thanks for the resources. Making mistakes is part of the learning process. But learning from others can save time. I’m new to blogging so learning is important right now. Emma Reply Jenny says October 24, 2007 at 12:40 am This is something I’ve been trying to do. I’ve gotten some positive results from it, but I think I could do better. Reply Mari says May 8, 2008 at 5:00 pm I have a note on the comments section of my blog stating that I respond to comments in the comments section unless specifically requested by the poster. Now I’m thinking – should I remove that? should I keep it but with a disclaimer? As for the telephone issue. I, for one, can’t stand the telephone. But in this business world, it’s a must-have and a must-use, no matter how much I loathe the thing. :sigh: Lots to think about here other than just that! And for the Goethe quote further up in the comments – that’s such a keeper. Thank you! Reply Dawud Miracle says May 11, 2008 at 12:37 am Mari, Keep it. Important to have it. I will have one soon. Reply Mari says May 11, 2008 at 1:59 pm Thanks for your thoughts, Dawud. I failed to subscribe to your blog last time I was over here. Am correcting that now. Reply Aurelius Tjin says May 29, 2008 at 6:00 am Great post! Thanks for sharing all these insights, tips and resources. 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